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(一)
最近告别前公司,心里还是有点怀念,毕竟是走出校园后的第一家公司,是相处了四年多的职场"初恋",从最初两年蜜月期,到后来相敬如宾,居家过日子,一直被善待和呵护,再然后,公司和我都变了样子,变成了凑合着过日子…最后离开。

像恋人一样,有缘,在某一段路程走在一起。让我们好好珍惜、用心经营。一路上的艳阳或风雨,一起享受。 也许到了某一个转弯处,你遇到了别人,或我想走一条你不愿走的路,我们就暂时分开。未来或许会重逢,或许不会。

(二)
很惦记在AP的小伙伴们,想到最后的三个星期,是这四年来感觉最放松的日子,一切都好,只欠烦恼。舍不得的人还在身边,未来在不远处向你招手,没有压力,没有焦虑,只剩下静静放松和好好道别。每天都和同事约饭,有很多人一起吃过两三次,还是觉得恋恋不舍,还是有很多话要说。尤其是同期进公司的小伙伴们,除了约饭,下午三四点还会约出来再聊聊,好像要把很多的话一下子说完。想想真的是无比美好,四年间,一起经历了入职,恋爱,结婚,买房,装修,生子,见证了彼此的每一步,看得到对方的蜕变,分享了彼此的纠结和快乐。

生命中总会有人走进来有人走出去,可是想到朋友洒落各地,却在各自的角落里幸福着,相望相依,也挺好。

(三)
宋丹丹说,“二十岁的女人要有姣好的容貌,三十岁的女人要有良好的性格,四十岁以上的女人要有好多好多的钱。”

翻出4年前的刚入职去美国培训的照片,看到那个不知职场事,感觉工作天天都是新鲜的小姑娘笑靥如花的脸。默默有点感伤。不过看到现在镜子里的自己,突然也很欣慰自己慢慢变成了自己期待的样子,更加自信从容。

雪中炭,夏日扇,只在一定的期限里发挥作用。遵循生命的规律,让自己渐渐变得丰盈和完整~

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C1 Speech evaluation

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Dear members, guests and Selina, good morning. I am really honored to be the evaluator of Selina's C1 speech- Ice Breaking. And it is also my very first evaluation speech. I am also very excited. Before my evaluation, I'd like to get some feedbacks from all of you. After Selina's speech, if you have a better understanding about Selina, please raise your hands.....So,Congratulations, Selina, you have successfully reach your C1 speech objective, that is to let others know you better. Well done. let's give her a big applause.

There are 2 things I really like in Selina's speech. First, there is a sound structure in her speech. In the opening part, she introduced herself briefly. In the body part, Selina shared with us 2 stories as the supporting material to her main points. In the conclusion she emphasized her key points that she was an warmhearted and optimistic girl. It's very clear structured.. The other shinning point is that, Selina stood on the stage very confidently and looked very calm. It showed that she had made adequate preparation for the speech. Also, she made very good eye contact with the audience, and engaged the audience well.

If there is any suggestions that I can give to Selina, I think here is 2 areas you can improve upon. Firstly, you can speaker a little bit loudly, so the audience sit in the back of the meeting room can hear you more clearly. Secondly, I noticed that there are some inappropriate usage of language in your speech. For example, I follow my heart. The book help me a lot. You should say I followed my heart..blabla..Please pay more attention to the grammar and time tenses next time.

All in all, Selina, I really like your speech. And I look forward to hearing your C2 speech next time! Thank you. Back to Toastmaster of the day.

Competent Communicator Project 5-Start your own business(Your body Speaks)

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Almost everyone has some entrepreneurial spirit, and with that, Many people are dreaming of starting their own business. Why? Because you can be your own boss, and the captain of your destiny. Is it hard? Without a doubt. Is it challenging? Absolutely. But do you have to be wealthy and well-educated to start a small business? Ur...Let me tell you my story.

It was a summer semester of my junior year in college. there was no compulsory courses and most of us only have about 3 optional courses to take. So most of the time, there was nothing going on. Many students were idling around in the dormitory, sleeping, playing video games, watching TV shows all day, without stepping out of their dorm room. And, there was basically nothing around the campus, I really mean nothing, only farmland and a small village. The dinning hall is the only dinning option. one day I was having lunch with my high school classmate in her college in the urban area, we ordered sushi. Suddenly an idea popped into my mind, How about I sell sushi in the campus? After getting back to school, I searched online to find out how to make sushi. It seemed so easy. So I said to my roommates, let's do something! Let's start a business! Then I told them my idea. Then Min told me that: You are crazy! Don't be ridiculous. You are gonna get into trouble. Then she patted on my shoulder and walked away. Dingding and Jolie told me that it was a brilliant idea. And they were thrilled to join in. So they became my teammates. Then we came out a work plan.

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《身份的焦虑》读书笔记(二)-如何缓解焦虑

既然了解了焦虑的原因,那如何缓解焦虑呢?

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一、降低金钱欲望,注重精神财富
在中国目前这种精英崇拜的社会,即使我们没有获得金钱身份上的成功,也不代表是个“loser”,成功的方式不止一种,“每一个时代都会有一些人无法或不愿温顺地服从关于上层身份的主流观念,但他们有资格拥有更好的称呼,而不是残酷地被人称为失败者或小角色,而这五个领域(即哲学,政治,艺术,基督教,波西米亚文化)的革新者们通过上述的方式,赋予这些人以合理性。他们提供了好多富有说服力和抚慰能力的事例来提醒我们,世界上并不是只有一种方式——并不是只有法官或药剂师的方式——才能证明生活的成功。”
我们吸取波西米亚文化和基督教义的精华,用精神的标准来衡量自己和他人:爱自己的邻人、行为谦恭、乐善好施,拥有友好、好奇、敏感、谦逊、虔诚和智慧,成为拥有爱的能力、快乐的能力以及欣赏的能力的“富人”。

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二、通过旅游,认识到与宏大的自然比,人类几毫米的差距微不足道
“对身份低下的焦虑进行治疗,最好的办法就是通过旅游——在现实中旅游或在艺术作品中旅游——去感受世界的广阔无垠。”
“因为宏大的自然景观是无限空间的代表,就如同废墟时无限时间的代表一样,与无限的时间相比,我们虚弱的、短暂的生命与飞蛾或蜘蛛的生命一样微不足道。 ”
“不管人们之间存在着多大的差别,一旦我们把世界上最强大的人同荒原大漠、崇山峻岭、巨大的冰河以及世界的大洋相提并论,人与人之间的差别就会变得非常微弱,几于消失。它们都是自然现象,其所占的空间如此之大,很容易就可以使任何两个人之间的差异显得可笑地微弱。身处宏大的自然景观,我们会感受到在广阔无垠的宇宙中人类的渺小,我们的心情会随之宁静,我们在社会等级结构中感受到大人微言轻的感觉也会随风消散”

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最忆是杭州

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杭州绝对是我心中中国最美的城市,没有之一。经常被同事问去杭州该去哪儿,最近刚好又去了下杭州,就想总结下我认为杭州值得去的地方。语言描述太无力,正好看到蓬山老叟的博客,有一个“杭州天堂“的专栏,配图和文字都很赞,借用下其中的一些描述.(上图是我去年七八月份在北山路拍的,当时荷花正盛开~)

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  • 太子湾公园
    我心中最美最精致的小公园,每年4月份郁金香开的季节都是游人如织,到处都是拿着专业装备拍照的游人。但是真的美轮美奂,起早去,绝对值!很多人不知道太子湾公园后面有座凤凰山,二三十分钟爬到山顶,一边通到雷峰塔,一边通到南屏山,可以随心情随便走走山路,随时下山。

  • 杨公堤
    与人山人海的苏堤白堤断桥相比,杨公堤沿线的景色就显得更安静而美丽,杨公堤营造出了一种亲水、亲山的环境氛围,形成独特的“堤在水中,水在堤中”的景致。最喜欢坐公交游杨公堤,一路起起伏伏,每次经过一座小桥时,由于下桥突然失重,每次都能听到公交车里游人惊叹的声音,犹如过山车,非常美妙。最妙的是串联起曲院风荷、金沙港、杭州花圃、茅家埠、乌龟潭、浴鹄湾和花港观鱼等著名景点,随便到一个景点下车,每个景点都会很美。

  • 曲院风荷
    老西湖十景之一,这里荷花种类繁多,赏荷的最佳地,也是《印象西湖》的演出地,去过很多次,即使是荷花盛开的夏天,也从来没遇到过苏堤白堤上的那种人潮。曲院风荷里面有个星巴克,边喝咖啡边赏荷,也是很惬意。

  • 龙井路
    如果没有时间在杭州逗留,那就打个出租车沿着龙井路逛一圈吧,看着满眼茶园,绝对心旷神怡。秋天的龙井路更是美,两旁枫叶渐红,秋意盎然。

  • 西溪湿地
    去西溪湿地一定要坐摇橹船,避开岸边的人群,更能体会到西溪湿地安静的美,蒹葭隔水,绿荫掩映,曲水环绕,意境清幽。

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