Competent Communicator Project 6-Disable Moments on Wechat(Vocal Variety)

3 weeks ago, I had an "aha! moment." I disable Moment on my Wechat. Why? Because I am mad of myself. I found that I can't help checking Moments from time to time, just in case someone has said something important, or simply because I 'm bored sometime. I didn't make a big deal about leaving the site. There was no, "I am going to leave Moment, so say your goodbyes." Instead, I just deactivated it without telling anyone.

Dear Toastmasters and guests, now 3 weeks has passed by, Guess what happened?

Before I tell you what I found out. I want to have a quick survey. Does anyone here notice that I have disabled Moments and stop following you on wechat? Ok, that's the first thing I found out. No one cares if I follow him on wechat. I can't become part of people's life only by following them on wechat. These social networks are supposed to help you connect and share with people in your life. But sarcastically they are not that sociable...If you really want to deepen or strengthen your friendships with someone, the best way is to make a real phone call or invite him/her out. Well, one good news though, you are not obliged to giving likes whenever you see a new post.

The second thing I found out is that, I feel happier about my life. Before, there are always posts of friends eating in fancy restaurants or enjoying exotic trips and exciting events. Sometimes, it make me feel that I'm a failure with hardly any highlights in my life. It cause me some kind of anxiety of being left out. Even though I know that I see the best side of everyone's life in a fragmented way. I shouldn't judge my own realities accordingly. But you can't stop comparisons sometimes. After I disable moment for weeks, I found that I no longer wonder what others are doing. I no longer want to compare or expect anything from anyone. Thank God. I don't have to bear those annoying posts either. Such as if-you-don't-share-this-bad-things-will-happen links. Posts like 'If I get 32 'like's, I will get a chance to stay in Holiday Inn' for one night. Give me likes, please ...Sounds so familiar? Oops... I did that once...Thank you guys for not hiding or unfriending me. Anyway, by leaving Moments, I feel more happiness, joy and peace.


My Boss


When I Take a long time to finish, I am slow,
When my boss takes a long time, he is thorough;

When I don't do it, I am lazy,
When my boss does not do it, he is busy;

When I do something without being told, I am trying to be smart,
When my boss does the same, he takes the initiative;

When I please my boss, I am apple polishing,
When my boss pleases his boss, he is cooperating;

When I make a mistake, I' am an idiot,
When my boss makes a mistake, he's only human;

When I am out of the office, I am wondering around,
When my boss is out of the office, he's on business;

When I am on a day off sick, I am always sick,
When my boss is a day off sick, he must be very ill;

When I apply for leave, I must be going for an interview,
When my boss applies for leave, it's because he's overworked;

When I do good, my boss never remembers,
When I do wrong, he never forgets.





Trust=Credibility* Reliability* Intimacy/Self-Orientation

Credibility (懂行,有料):就是你有没有几把刷子,能胜任这份工作。
Reliability (可靠,说到做到):其实是个日久见人心的东西。
Self-Orientation (从自己利益考虑):是指什么事都从自己的角度考虑,而不考虑别人,这就让人感觉到不可信任。


招聘时,面试官主要是观察面试申请者的三个方面:Skill, Will, Feel。

Feel(感觉):说起来很虚,但是往往最后起决定作用。简单来说就是面试官以后愿不愿意跟你一起共事。一般来说,需要应聘者满足以下三个要求,1,你不讨人嫌。2,你是个靠谱的人。3,你是个有趣的人。(3个人觉得nice to have,不是硬性指标)


Invitation Letters from Pudong Toastmasters Club

作了任期半年的浦东国际演讲俱乐部秘书,发出了21封邀请信,topic多种多样,从Chinese New Year写到College Entrance Examination,从Love写到Modern Marriage,从Stress Out写到How we get here, 从E-commerce写到Under the dome...不管工作忙不忙,基本每周都花几个小时认真准备Invitation Letter。一分辛劳一分收获,感觉自己英语写作水平提高了,也认识了很多Pudong Toastmasters Club(PDTMC)各种有才的小伙伴。我常常感慨俱乐部里有太多脸蛋姣好,身材傲人,内心有趣,职场得意,游历过半个地球,有品位有修养的姑娘,而且还是单身!!我如果是男生,一定扑向这些姑娘们。所以,想认识漂亮姑娘,想认识有趣朋友,想提高演讲水平的你,要不要来PDTMC感受下?

Chinese New Year
The Year of the Goat is coming. Are you excited? When we were little, Chinese New Year (CNY) meant a lot of things: yummy food and snacks, new clothes, red envelopes, fireworks, seeing relatives from afar, etc. There is no doubt that every child looks forward to CNY. Now for our adult, especially for those far from home, CNY is still the most important holiday. It is a time to return home, to see family and old friends, and to enjoy homemade dishes together. What’s your favorite part of CNY? What are your childhood memories of CNY? Come and join us this Sunday to share with us your stories!

Modern Marriage
Before you make the decision to walk down the aisle and take those sacred vows, there is one very important question that you need to ask yourselves. Do you want a traditional marriage or a modern marriage?

A traditional marriage is one in which the wife looks upon her husband as the head of the household, and all final decisions are made by him. Also, in a traditional marriage, the husband is normally seen as the main breadwinner of the family, whereas the woman is seen as the nurturer of the family. The husband usually takes care of things outside of the house and the wife usually takes care of things within the house. They each have very specific roles within the family.

A modern marriage is one where both husband and wife have an equal say in all decisions regarding the family. They come to decisions through the art of compromise and/or agreement. In a modern marriage, both partners are responsible for all of the roles within the family, depending on work schedules. A husband may be home cooking dinner while the wife is working late. A wife may earn more than the husband and a husband can be a stay at home parent.

What does modern marriage mean to you? What's your choice? Come and join us on Sunday and share with us!