理想生活

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朋友向我吐槽不满意现在的生活,
你的理想生活是怎样的呢?我问我朋友。
她说,不知道,那你呢?
我也不知道,或者不完全知道,只能言片语的说一部分。

我曾经试着去寻找答案,读了很多文章,有的很鸡血有的很鸡汤,有感触但是毫无指导作用。直到年初的时候看到@Susan Kuang的我的2016年计划,豁然开朗,这是多么好的模板啊:

人生目标:
? 生活充实、快乐
? 没有经济压力
? 和谐的关系(父母、伴侣、朋友、以及合作伙伴)
? 能给这个世界留下几本书,一些艺术作品和一种精神

理想生活:
? 每周工作不超过40小时,有足够时间发展业余爱好、读书、健身、享受生活以及陪伴重要的人
? 经营一份小而美的事业,能够保持每年稳定增长
? 年收入 50W+,存30W
? 资产能够按每年5%+增长
? 支持父母做自己喜欢的事情,每年陪他们旅行一趟
? 有一个相互理解和支持的伴侣,携手共同成长,一起看世界
? 每年能去海外游学两周到一个月

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幸福的小事 (3)

以前看过一段话,大意是说幸福的婚姻中也有五百次离婚的念头,以及50次掐死对方的冲动。我当时年纪小,心里啧啧道,这样的婚姻好可悲...

结果被啪啪打脸了,还没结婚几年,就有多次掐死对方的冲动+_+ 还好,只要在心里yy一番过把瘾就好了。

嗯,要多记录下生活中美好的一面,防止犯罪冲动:)

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(一)忙里偷闲
今天周日,爸爸要带奶奶和桐桐去铁道博物馆,我申请在家里看书。出发前,桐桐的心情是无比欢快的。咯咯咯咯看啥都笑,东摸摸西碰碰,就等爸爸一声口号:出门!
此刻,我的心情也是欢快的!终于在每周末陪娃48小时的routine里,抠出3小时自己安静的独处。
哇哈哈,心里偷着乐。

(二)管道工
我老赵商量,我去考个托福吧。
老赵说,可以啊,以后可以去澳洲做个管道工,plumber很赚钱的。
...
你见过这么瘦小的管道工么?
老赵说,没事,你可以去修小管道...

(三)外星人
老赵问,你相信这个世界上有外星人么?
我答,当然了,我就是。
老赵冷笑道,呵呵。
告诉你了你还不信,你这愚蠢的人类。

(四)功能升级
老赵毛病特别多,经常让我帮他挠挠手挠挠背。这一次等他又要求我挠背的时候,我说,对不起,我已经失去了这个功能。
老赵说,系统太旧了,需要升级。
我说,我需要一颗大钻石才能升级。
老赵默默自己挠背…
过了几天,他跟我说,有人要跟自己的手机结婚了。你这种人马上要被取代了!

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高效能人士的七个习惯-读书笔记

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前段时间参加了公司组织的“高效能人士的七个习惯”培训。不同于我原想的是,高效能人士的七个习惯所传授的内容不是管理技巧,而是如何培养良好的品格和思维习惯。我觉得这套理论我很受用,先简单的做个摘抄笔记,改天写写对我的启发和需要做的改变。

HABIT 1: BE PROACTIVE 主动积极
The habit of personal vision. Each person has the power to make his or her own decisions. When individuals use this power to choose their responses according to self-determined values, they are proactive. In other words, proactive people use margin of freedom to make choices that best apply their values. As they work on thing they can control (their Circle of Influence?) in lieu of reacting to or worrying about conditions over which they have little or no control (their Circle of Concern?), they use positive energy to influence conditions and increase their Circle of Influence.
自我审视的习惯。每个人都有自己做决定的能力。当人们根据价值观用这种能力来选择反映的时候,他们是主动积极的。换句话说,主动积极的人运用自由来选择最能体现其价值观的反应。当他们致力于他们有能力控制的事情(影响圈),而不是被动地忧虑那些他们没有控制力或控制力很小的事情(关切范围)时,他们积极地影响形势,产生并加强影响圈。

HABIT 2: BEGIN WITH THE END IN MIND 以终为始
The habit of personal leadership. The most effective people shape their own futures. They benefit from beginning with the end in mind in all areas of life. Instead of letting other people or circumstance determine their results, they carefully plan who they want to be, what they want to do, and what they want to have, and then they let their mental plan guide their decision. This mental plan for their life’s purpose expressed in written form is called a mission statement. A person who has a mission statement and used it to guide decisions will live in harmony with his or her self-determined purpose.
自我领导的习惯,最有效能的人设计自己的未来。他们在其生活的各个领域由使命开始。他们不会让其他人或环境来决定他们的结局,他们认真计划自己究竟要做什么样的人,想做什么,想拥有什么,然后他们让心里的计划指导决策,这种以书面形式表达的对于生命目标的计划叫做使命宣言。一个人如果有使命宣言并以之指导决策,他就会与其自定的目标保持一致。

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生活系列主题-之#周末早餐#和#每日穿搭#

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曾经的曾经,我也是一个在感情中作天作地的人,希望在任何一个值得纪念的日子里,不平常的度过。当然不是为了礼物,而是为了以后能留下美好回忆。边打字边想了想,确实有些美好记忆是发生在节日里的。但是更多难忘的瞬间好像和节日又没什么关系。记忆是奇妙的东西,哪些事是要记住的,哪些事是要忘记的,似乎并不是自己就可以决定的。

在平常的日子里,我喜欢时不时创造一些生活系列主题(虽然坚持的时间都不长),给生活添加点仪式感,尽量生活的兴趣盎然。今天写下我的#周末早餐#和#每日穿搭#系列。

ps:放每日穿搭系列真是鼓了几天勇气,因为我的穿搭和pose也实在太普通太没有借鉴性,不过本文的意思就是乐在记录嘛。

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Competent Communicator Project 10- Are you a Generalist, Specialist or T-shaped individual?

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Dear Toastmasters and most welcomed guest, good morning!

About 5 years ago, I graduated and got my first job as a management trainee in an industrial gas company. We have a program called "career development program(CDP program)", which means each management trainee has 3 years rotation in 3 different positions. My first year or my first assignment is analytical engineer, my daily responsibility is to deal with analytical instruments to insure the product quality. (This is the plant I used to work for 3 months in Wuhu). I have a very good boss, who is very professional and work extremely hard. He gave me various technical training and always share with me good career advice he believed in. He wanted me to drill more deeply into technical field and be a professional analytical engineer. He said that many people are above average at anything, but nothing really stands out. These people are easily replaced and usually not highly paid. You should have a unique skill to make yourself irreplaceable and more valuable.

This terrified me. Yet, I am not sure whether this path makes sense.

What if...I don't have any world class skills? What if...this is not what I truly want to do for the rest of my life? What if...I don't want to be a specialist? What if...there are a lot of other jobs I want to seriously try on?

So I moved on and rotated to my 2 assignment, in external partnership group. My duty is to identify and build technology partnership with top universities, institute and state owned companies. And coordinated with technology transfer and new business development. (This is 2 pics we visited SCUST and Zhejiang Univ) This is a more diverse and exciting assignment. And my boss is a great guy. He taught me a lot and we collaborated fairly well. Now sounds perfect, ha?So I decided to choose this as my permanent job and rolled out of the CDP program.

Well, after a year or so, I feel frustrated again. Why? Because I realized that I was on a path to become a generalist- 'A jack of all trades and master of none', to quote a common saying.' I seem to know a little about everything, but possess no deep, technical skills. I became the person who is easily replaceable.

I need a change. I choose to specialize...well, in what?

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如何提升职场价值?

作为一个唯一收入来源是paycheck的上班族,我常常焦虑于自己职场价值。

今天参加公司的培训,培训老师是个50岁左右的香港人,他跟我们说“最近的20年,不论是香港还是美国,还是国内的外企,毕业生的起薪基本没有变化,购买力却是严重下降。未来的职场只会越来越残酷,人才供应增加,职位供应却没有增加。而且技能迭代太快,我们的上一辈人是幸福的,可以一下子工作到退休不会失业,在现在快速变化的世界里,你的工作经验真的能维持你工作到50岁么?”是啊,看看我周围的两个实习生,小小的大三男生,已经有在新加坡,日本,还有(即将)美国等顶级学校的科研经历了。另外一个实习生,也是多伦多大学的在校生。后生可畏。真的如老师所说的,如果你今天不努力,明天就会被年轻人取代。

那怎样才能保住饭碗,保持自己的职场竞争力呢?首先,我们来了解一个人才测评的基础模型,称为冰山模型
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“根据这个模型,你个人能够创造出多大的价值,离不开三大要素:

第一个要素,知识和技能。比如我现在写这篇文章,冰山模型是知识,电脑打字是技能。一个人的知识和技能是可以后天习得的,也是非常显性,容易展示出来的。所以,我们称为冰山上的部分。

第二个要素,是能力,比如学习和思考能力、人际交往能力等等。相对知识和技能来说,能力的培养周期长,并且,相对隐性,能力高低不是一眼就能看出来的,往往要通过仔细的行为观察。所以,能力是在冰山中间的部分。

第三个要素,天赋,包括价值观、性格特质、动机。比如,你的人际敏感度天生很强,那么在做一些服务类的工作,就会比人际敏感度弱的人要来得轻松。再比如,你是成就感动机的人,那你做咨询工作,就会比权力动机的人感受到更多快乐,也容易做得好。 ”

在多数情况下,你的价值=企业愿意付出的价格(或者约等于)。抛开出身、选择、运气等外部因素,在企业里,要获得职场上升的筹码,道路无非是:

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